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Avoiding Your Persistent Fears Will Not Make Them Go Away

Beth

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Gabby

Is your child acting out or showing unusual behavior that is resistant to change? Have you noticed a severe decline in school performance, frequent outbursts of anger, or potentially life-threatening actions? Do you wonder when temper tantrums or a stubborn nature go beyond what is typical? Is your youngster acting fearful, depressed or aggressive to the point of setting fires or killing animals? When problems are severe, persistent and disrupt daily life, you may be dealing with a biologically and organically based mental illness that, despite your best efforts as a parent, will require expert medical intervention.<br> <br> Dr. Phil offers this advice as you try to get to the root of what may be a biological, brain or development problem and find appropriate help.<br> <br> <br> Don&#039;t experience guilt, blame or shame. It is not your fault if your child is not responding the way other children seem to. You are most likely doing the best you can as a responsible, loving, caring, nurturing parent, but all the love you have in your heart is not enough to help a child overcome a biologically based mental illness.<br> <br> <br> Reach out for professional help. Begin with your pediatrician, and then be open to referrals to specialists in the fields of child psychiatry, neurology, endocrinology, nutrition and other appropriate disciplines for both diagnosis and treatment. A major part of any solution lies within defining the problem, so a differential diagnosis from medical experts is critical. You cannot do this alone. Be patient as you put together a multi-disciplinary team of professionals that you trust and think is right for your child.<br> <br> <br> When you meet with the experts, do not be passive. Ask questions. No one knows your child better than you and nobody in this world wants the best for your child as passionately as you do. You may not have a medical background, but your questions and observations will be helpful. Ask about possible biochemical imbalances or brain disorders, which may be the foundation of your child&#039;s symptomology.<br> <br> <br> Become a part of your child&#039;s multi-disciplinary management team. While you are not to blame, you do have a very important role in helping your child achieve the best level of adjustment. As the leader of your family, you can create a family and home situation that will be fertile ground for re-parenting your child as part of the treatment plan. You may need to make additional sacrifices in order to start committing more time to your family.<br> <br> <br> Be open to all solutions, even things you might initially want to dismiss. Just because you don&#039;t agree wholeheartedly with an avenue of approach doesn&#039;t mean it might not work in your family. Don&#039;t slam the door on certain alternatives or coping tools without exploring them completely first. Now is not the time to be judgmental or resist some tools and resources that may genuinely help you.<br> <br> <br> Reassure your child that your home is a safe place where he is loved and cared about. It can only help your child to know that you will stand by his side and help him get through it. Keep communication channels with your child open. Encourage him to ask questions and express feelings, and be ready and available to listen.<br> <br> <br> Stay calm. You may feel helpless, frustrated, exhausted, scared and countless other emotions, but you need to stay in charge of yourself in order to inspire confidence and have a stabilizing effect on the rest of the family.<br> <br> <br> Remove danger. Depending on what signs your child is exhibiting that concern you, be cautious about potential physical or emotional danger. For example, consider confiscating dangerous objects or avoiding certain people. This won&#039;t help you get to the cause of your child&#039;s issue, but it will protect him in the meantime.<br> <br> <br> Do not attack or blame your child. With the help of a multi-disciplinary team, you will get to the core of the problem and find a solution. Indicting the child or punishing him will not help you reach your goal of getting the help, support and long-term solution that you need.<br> <br> <br> Close ranks. Communicate with the rest of your family, be open and honest with your concerns, and support one another. Family unity is essential for getting through troubled times.<br> <br> <br> Draw on other resources. In addition to a multi-disciplinary medical team, consider speaking with clergy members, your child&#039;s teachers or school counselor, your friends and local support groups.<br> <br> <br> Take one day at a time. If you haven&#039;t yet gotten a diagnosis for your child, worrying about the future is not going to help you. First you need to get more information and resources, and then you need to move forward with a diagnosis and a treatment plan.<br> <br> <br> Recognize that this is a challenge you will manage. Life is not a success-only journey. You may have a difficult road ahead of you as you begin to find help for your child, but your family will emerge stronger, healthier and more bonded.

Juanita

I realize that this same general question could be asked about any conspiracy theory, but the persistence of certain conspiracy theories makes more sense than others. For example, the &quot;JFK second gunman&quot; conspiracy theory is probably persistent because some people who opposed U.S. foreign policy during the Cold War WANT to believe that the CIA of the 1960s was corrupt and out of control. And some people believe in “9/11” conspiracies because they WANT to believe that the Bush Administration is corrupt and imperialistic, or perhaps some people NEED to believe that a good Muslim like Osama ben Laden is not capable of such a crime in order to avoid a crisis of faith. <br> <br> But what’s up with the moon? Is it really so hard for some people to accept that the United States is capable of doing something so monumental that they will go to such incredible lengths to bury their heads in the sand and ignore the obvious evidence?

Lena

He is of my age and I dont consider him any more than just friend. I wasnt replying to his messages his calls etc, but he is very persistent and keeps asking me to be my friend, so I gave in and talked to him ocassionaly. Now he asks me to go to movie with him. I tried to avoid answering, cause I dont see the point. Asked my friend, she says I should go, what do I have to loose, but I am not sure. Dont what to give him wring idea. Should I go?<br> <br> Guys, if girl goes to movie with you what does that makes you think? Tha girl is attracted to you? And if after that date she insists on remaining friends whouls feel used?

Eddie

Most of the times guys that I don&#039;t like seem to be the most persistent. A guy came up to me and kept asking me for my number. I told him I was taken and he kept on asking about my boyfriend and if we could at least be friends. Is he slow or somethin? Also, guys that I&#039;m not interested in can&#039;t read the signs that I give out which means that I&#039;m not interested. For instance, not calling them a lot, not giving them compliments when they give me one, and or even trying to avoid them by rushing to go somewhere or keeping the conversation short. I could tell when a guy is into me, but why can&#039;t some of them tell that I&#039;m not into them?

Your fears, anxieties, and other problems have the best of you and you don’t know where to turn for help. At some point you feel totally helpless as you struggle each day. What do you do? As a layman and an author of a Managing Fear book, there were times that my fears had the best of me. Through these experiences, there is one thing that I learned. You can’t hide or runaway from your fears. Since you can’t runaway from them, then the best solution is to tackle your fears head on no matter how strong they may be. The key is to be smart in how you try to manage these fears. When managing your fears and <a href="/post/fear/difficult/alternative-abuse-people-abuse/">anxieties</a> do not try to tackle everything at once. The best solution is to break your fears or problems into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success. Learn how to manage your fearful and negative thoughts that may be difficult to manage. When experiencing a negative thought, read some positive statements and affirmations that help lift your spirits and make you feel better. Whenever you come across an affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down in a small notebook that you can carry around with you in your pocket. Whenever you feel depressed or frustrated, open up your small notebook and read those statements. Take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. Focus on the present and stop trying to predict what may <a href="/post/fear/realize/fear-bipolar-problems-easy/">happen</a> next week. Next week will take care of itself. <a href="/post/fear/make/hide-runaway-anxieties-sooner/">Remember</a> that avoiding your problem through the use of alcohol or other means will do nothing in the long run in fixing your problems. It will just make things worse. Managing your fear and anxieties will take some hard work so be patient and stay committed in trying to solve your problem.