Control / Avoid 2008
Compulsive Lying, The Intervention
When i eat a candy like skittle or a candy that is many colors, i seperate them and eat them lightest to darkest, does that mean im compulsive?
Recently this habit has gotten worse. I have this problem with checking doors. When I lock them I have to check twice. If there's a door that I didn't go through I still have to check to see if it's locked. It's the same with my car. I "double lock" the doors. Just doors!! It's starting to get on my nerves real bad now. When I lock a door and check it once I walk away but there's some urge in me to go back and check it again. Is there something wrong with me? I don't want this to get any worse.
"A compulsive liar is defined as someone who lies out of habit. Lying is their normal and reflexive way of responding to questions. Compulsive liars bend the truth about everything, large and small. For a compulsive liar, telling the truth is very awkward and uncomfortable while lying feels right. For the most part, compulsive liars are not overly manipulative and cunning, rather they simply lie out of habit - an automatic response which is hard to break."<br> <br> that describes me. how do i ask for help? i cant come straight out with it to anybody.
I came from an abusive household and learned that the best way to avoid a hard situation is to lie through it. The problem is I am not a little kid anymore and still have a problem with compulsive lying.Even about little tiny things that don't matter and even when my husband knows I am lying. I don't even know why I do it. I feel so stupid. I have a wonderful husband, two little girls, and a great job that I love. My life is perfect, but I keep lying. About everything. I am even convincing myself that my lies are true. My marriage is falling apart. My SO is getting tired of catching me in lies. Last night he point blank asked me why do I feel the need to compulsively lie. Today I looked up signs of compulsive lying and other OCDs. It felt like looking in a mirror. But if I go home tonight and just lay out compulsive lying and howI feel and what I am doing, will he think I am just justifing what I have done and seeking attention rather than finally seeing what I am and trying to change?
I came from an abusive household and learned that the best way to avoid a hard situation is to lie through it. The problem is I am not a little kid anymore and still have a problem with compulsive lying.Even about little tiny things that don't matter and even when my husband knows I am lying. I don't even know why I do it. I feel so stupid. I have a wonderful husband, two little girls, and a great job that I love. My life is perfect, but I keep lying. About everything. I am even convincing myself that my lies are true. My marriage is falling apart. My SO is getting tired of catching me in lies. Last night he point blank asked me why do I feel the need to compulsively lie. Today I looked up signs of compulsive lying and other OCDs. It felt like looking in a mirror. But if I go home tonight and just lay out compulsive lying and howI feel and what I am doing, will he think I am just justifing what I have done and seeking attention rather than finally seeing what I am and trying to change?
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